作者：利·基尼里
2026年3月19日 / 美国东部时间上午10:39 / 哥伦比亚广播公司新闻
根据《2026年世界幸福报告》，芬兰被评为世界上最幸福的国家。几十年来，北欧国家一直占据幸福指数榜首，而丹麦则始终位列前三。
美国作家杰西卡·乔尔·亚历山大认为，丹麦人有一些育儿习惯值得美国借鉴，以培养快乐的孩子。
这位畅销书《丹麦育儿方式》的作者向哥伦比亚广播公司新闻讲述了一些她认为帮助这个北欧国家保持高幸福感的育儿习俗。
她用一个简单的首字母缩写词总结了这些习惯：PARENT。
- P代表玩耍（Play）
“在这里，对孩子来说最重要的是玩耍，”她告诉哥伦比亚广播公司新闻。
“自由玩耍被视为至关重要的，”她说，因为它能培养”同理心、谈判技巧、批判性思维、协作能力和内在控制感”。
- A代表真实性（Authenticity）
亚历山大表示，这关乎丹麦人如何根据孩子的年龄与他们谈论世界状况。
“我发现他们实际上对孩子非常诚实，而且是根据孩子的年龄来调整诚实的程度，”亚历山大告诉哥伦比亚广播公司新闻。”我认为这里的方法是，如果某件事是生活的一部分，就应该成为教育的一部分，因为生活不是童话。”
丹麦以童话闻名——它是19世纪作家汉斯·克里斯蒂安·安徒生的故乡，其作品包括《小美人鱼》。
“但真正的童话其实很悲伤，”亚历山大说。”《小美人鱼》的原版中，她因悲伤而死去。我给女儿读了两个版本，发现她更喜欢悲伤的版本。这引发了有意义的讨论。”
亚历山大表示，这种诚实有助于培养孩子的韧性。
- R代表尊重（Respect）
- E代表同理心（Empathy）
- N代表“不设最后通牒”（No ultimatums）
- T代表团结（Togetherness）
丹麦整体幸福感高可能有多种因素：例如，它在《世界幸福报告》中社会信任度得分很高，不平等程度低，且福利体系强大。
父母（无论母亲还是父亲）在孩子出生后可享受长达一年的假期。
亚历山大表示，美国的情况非常不同，但”就像意大利的意大利面和披萨很棒，我们在世界其他地方也借鉴了这些美食一样，我认为丹麦有一些很棒的育儿实践，我们可以借鉴。”
美国在今年的幸福报告中排名第17位，低于墨西哥和巴拿马。
该报告引用了美国市场研究公司盖洛普的数据及其他研究，指出大量使用社交媒体的年轻人幸福感有所下降。
Denmark is one of the world’s happiest nations. Are its parenting habits worth importing?
By Leigh Kiniry
March 19, 2026 / 10:39 AM EDT / CBS News
Finland has been crowned the happiest country in the world, according to the 2026 World Happiness Report. Nordic countries have topped the happiness list for decades, and Denmark has consistently ranked in the top three.
American author Jessica Joelle Alexander believes the Danes have some habits worth importing in the U.S. to raise happy kids.
The author of the best-selling book “The Danish Way of Parenting” told CBS News about some of the child rearing customs that she thinks have helped keep the northern European nation so happy.
She sums it all up with a simple acronym: PARENT.
The P is for play.
“The most important thing for a child here is to play,” she told CBS News.
“Free play is seen as so fundamental,” she said, because it teaches “empathy, negotiation skills, critical thinking, collaboration, and an internal locus of control.”
The A represents authenticity, and Alexander said it’s about how Danes speak to their kids regarding the state of the world.
“I find that they’re actually incredibly honest with their children, in an age-appropriate way,” Alexander told CBS News. “I think the approach here is that, if it’s part of life, it should be part of education, because life is not a fairy tale.”
Denmark is famous for fairy tales—it is the home of Hans Christian Andersen, the 19th century author whose works include “The Little Mermaid.”
“But the real fairy tales are actually very sad,” Alexander said. “‘The Little Mermaid,’ in the real version, she dies of sadness. I read both versions to my daughter and I found she preferred the sad version. It opened up meaningful discussions.”
Alexander said the honesty helps build resilience in children.
The R is for respect, the E for empathy, the N for “no ultimatums,” and the T stands for togetherness _.
A lot of factors likely contribute to Denmark’s overall happiness: It scores high on the World Happiness Report in trust within society, for instance, and has low levels of inequality and a strong welfare system.
Parents, mothers and fathers, are allowed to take up to a year off when they have a baby.
Alexander said the U.S. is very different, but “just like Italy has great pasta and pizza and we’ve imported that in the rest of the world, Denmark has some great parenting practices I think we can incorporate.”
The United States ranked 17th in this year’s happiness report, below Mexico and Panama.
The report includes research, citing data from U.S. market research company Gallup and other studies, suggesting a drop in wellbeing among young people who use social media heavily.
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